Talkin To Terry

Facebook is all the rage now and for years I never understood what all they hype was about.  I spend all day at work in front of a computer and the last thing I want to do when I get home is spend more time there.  When talking to people (in person) they would say, "hey, I will FB you", no they couldn't "FB" me because I didn't have FB.  It was almost as if I had to be ashamed that I was not a facebooker!  I would cringe when I saw the question coming and would literally try to dodge it!  Anyway, after years of dodging the facebook question I broke down and created my page!  To my surprise, I actually look forward to getting on the computer and finding out what is happening with friends, family and complete strangers!  I know, thank goodness my mother didn't hear that one!  My kids made me promise that I would not friend request their friends~but agreed that if their friends made the request of me I could accept.  I have held fast to this rule and surprisingly I do have several of their friends on my friends list.  I have had a great time catching up with people that I haven't seen or spoken to in years and that is where this post is heading. 
I have caught up with my best friends since kindergarten, Lisa and Mary, friends that I went to college with, Susie, Sarah, Katie and Cathy. And that is just a few of the people that I have been able to "spend time" with.   I have been able to share stories with them, allow them to meet my family and meet theirs as well.  It has been a true blessing to reconnect with so many people.    One of the people that I have reconnected with is a high school classmate named Terry.   Thinking back to 1984 I try to recall if we were friends, acquaintances, or just two people who went through public education together.  My first thought is that yes, we were friends but I don't recall really ever spending anytime with him.  Terry has a twin brother, Todd, that seemed to have a much bigger personality than Terry's.  As I set and think about the two of them I remember that Terry was the quiet one and Todd...well, was not!  Everyone seemed to like Todd, he was outgoing, funny, a real people person. I remember being very intimidated by Todd.  Maybe it was just the difference in our personalities but I just remember hoping I never had to meet him in the hallway by myself because you just never knew what he was going to do or say.   Terry on the other hand had his group of friends and really didn't seem to waiver too far from them.  One day while on facebook, Terry just popped up on chat and we began the typical "catch up conversation".  I have found out so many things about him and I kick myself for not taking the time to get to know him better all those years ago.  It seems we were brought up in two very different types of homes. Mine was loving, warm and a true comfort zone and his was more unstable and uncertain.  If I had only known then, what I know now I would have worked harder to have made him part of my circle or I would have tried harder to be a part of his.  Terry told me the other day that he remembers coming to my house to get a bunny for his niece, something I had no memory of. What was even more amazing is he described my home down to where the rooms were when you entered.  He was only there one time but he recalled the layout of my childhood home perfectly.  He said he remembered the huge fireplace and meeting my mother and feeling the love that was inside the walls of that house and he was right.  He only met my mother that one time but he was right about her too.  Full of love and never judgemental, that was my mother.  But, as kids go, we seem to judge too harshly on things that now just don't seem to matter.  I guess being a grown up has its advantages and being able to see past stereotypes and social groups is one of them.
This blog is for you Terry, I hope you read it and know that I feel truly blessed to have reconnected with you!  God Bless you my friend!